The Art of Dancing in the Rain: How to Laugh in Times of Adversity

The key to overcoming adversity is dancing in the rain. By finding joy in times of hardship, we can become healthier and happier.

There are two ways to look at rainstorms: as an inconvenience, something to be feared, or as a nurturer, something that brings life and creates puddles to dance in.

“Dancing in the rain,” which you’ve undoubtedly heard before, is often used as a metaphor for finding joy and resilience in the midst of difficult circumstances. But it’s so much more than that. It’s the act of consciously searching for happiness when all we see is adversity. It’s choosing to be happy when all we see is rain. Being able to find moments of happiness in life’s rainstorms is essential for maintaining our well-being. 

Here are some tips on how to embrace the art of dancing in the rain, because sometimes, in the face of life’s challenges, all you can do is laugh:

Expect Rainstorms

Rainstorms are a natural occurrence, just as adversity is in our lives. In the words of Dr. Jonathan Biggane, “It’s not a question of if we’re going to face adversity, it’s when.” By being prepared for life’s uncertainties, we can lower our risk of “burnout, depression, anxiety, and other maladies,” which will set us on the path to “naturally become happier.” 

See the Puddles as a Stage for Dancing, Not Obstacles in Your Path

It’s a bit cliché, but instead of focusing solely on the negatives, try to see challenges as opportunities for growth and learning. Embrace the mindset that every obstacle is a chance to become stronger and more resilient. Just noticing your unhappiness, your negativity, and consciously trying to think positively will already create huge improvement in your overall happiness.

Laugh When You Fall in the Mud

While it’s important to acknowledge your feelings and struggles, don’t be afraid to find humor in the absurdity of life’s challenges. Sometimes, laughter truly is the best medicine.

• Find the absurdity in the situation and turn your hardships into a comedic plot twist, like locking yourself out of your own house.
• Be the first to laugh at your own foibles and mishaps, but use only positive language. For example, instead of “I’m so stupid,” you could say, “I’m beauty and grace.”
• Turn your past experiences into funny stories to put the hardship into perspective.
• Create lighthearted, funny rituals, like dance parties or at-home standup comedy, to lighten up the heavy atmosphere.
• Share funny memes, jokes, or stories, whether related to your situation or not, with friends or loved ones so you can laugh together.

Thank the Rain

Even in tough times, there are always things to be thankful for. Take time each day to reflect on the blessings in your life, no matter how small they may seem.

Don’t Go Dancing in the Rain Alone

Surround yourself with supportive friends and family who can provide laughter, encouragement, and perspective during difficult times. Sharing laughter with others can lighten the burden and strengthen bonds.

Dance, Splash, and Find Activities That Bring Joy

Dancing in the rain is all about finding happiness where you are, right in that moment. Whether it’s dancing, painting, cooking, or playing music, make time for activities that bring you happiness and allow you to express yourself creatively.

Don’t Lose Yourself in the Rain

Happiness research has proven that “external life changes, whether good or bad, have little effect on long-term happiness.” As Biggane explains, “we can also experience bad events and return to our former baselines of happiness within a few months.” So don’t give up on yourself before you’ve truly begun healing. Mindfulness practices such as meditation and deep breathing can help you stay grounded and present, even when life feels chaotic. Remember to take things one step at a time and savor the little moments of joy along the way.

Seek Help When Needed

It’s okay to ask for help when you’re struggling to find joy on your own. Whether it’s talking to a therapist, joining a support group, or reaching out to a trusted friend, don’t hesitate to lean on others for support.

Embrace The Mess

Life is messy, and it’s okay to not have everything figured out. Embrace the imperfections and uncertainties, and remember that it’s often in the midst of chaos that the most beautiful moments of joy can be found.

There are two ways to look at rainstorms and two ways to look at adversity. And I hope that by embracing these principles, you can learn to dance in the rain, finding moments of laughter and joy even in the midst of life’s storms.

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^{Shaelyn Topolovec earned a BA in editing and publishing from BYU, worked on several online publications, and joined the Familius family. Shae is currently an editor and copywriter who lives in California’s Central Valley.}