Our thoughts propel us forward through life whether we think they do or not. Our personal vision creates who we are and what we will become.

“We are shaped by our thoughts. We become what we think.”-Buddha

Samantha, age seventeen, was depressed. She looked at herself large and chubby, constantly saying negative things about herself, like ‘loser,’ ‘fat,’ and ‘clumsy.’ She even bought her clothes a size too big because she was ashamed of her shape. She had become what she thought about. For Samantha to change her life, she had to set a goal to change her thinking.

Become Aware of Your Own Thoughts

Notice your thinking patterns. Are they positive or negative? Do you like them as they are, or would you change them? Keep the positive and release the negative. Proactively decide the direction you want your life to take so you’re not swept along with the daily tide of life.

Anger Brings Negativity

Those who are angry fill themselves with negative energy and bring the things they dislike into their lives by focusing on them

I have a friend who is sure the local water district cheated him out of water rights his grandfather got when he homesteaded his land. My friend has spent time, money, and lots of negative energy fighting local government. He is depressed and lives life in an angry state, knowing that life battles against him.

Center your attention and energy on the things you want, not the things you dislike.

Write Positive Descriptions of Yourself

Samantha wrote some upbeat mantras about herself. She composed statements like:

I am intelligent.

I am a good friend.

I like my olive complexion.

I have a great laugh.

Others enjoy my sense of humor.

As she said these things to herself often during the day, her depression began to lift. She could see herself in a more positive light. She began to buy clothes that complemented her coloring and her figure. Everyone liked her new look.

Involve Others in Your Goals

Find an upbeat companion and share your problem with them. Ask them to tell you when you get stuck in negative thinking. Samantha had a good friend that helped her see her good qualities.

Surround yourself with positive energy and become the best you can be.

The more positive thinking Samantha enjoyed, the happier she became. Life wasn’t perfect, but it was a lot better. She was on her way to becoming her best self.

 “Life is a gift, and it offers us the privilege, opportunity, and responsibility to give something back by becoming more.”-Anthony Robbins

Read more about this topic and others in Christy Monson’s new book, Becoming Free, A Woman’s Guide to Internal Strength, available September 1st 2013.




Christy Monson established a successful counseling practice in Las Vegas, Nevada, as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Her books, Love, Hugs, and Hope: When Scary Things Happen, and Becoming Free: A Woman's Guide To Internal Strength are publ... Read More