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Turning Gratitude into Confidence

Confidence, a steadfast belief in oneself, begins with gratitude. Read along to find out how being thankful can turn into healthy self-esteem.

Confidence is the belief in one’s abilities, qualities, and judgment. It is a state of mind that empowers individuals to take on challenges, make decisions, and engage in activities with assurance and self-reliance. However, it is also one of the most difficult characteristics to obtain.

When your self-esteem is running low, confidence can feel out of reach. And that’s the moment you turn toward gratitude instead.

What Does It Mean to Be Confident?

Being confident helps people “gain credibility, make a strong first impression, deal with pressure, and tackle personal and professional challenges.” It can manifest as self-confidence, social confidence, and situational confidence, but it is an attractive trait all the same. People like confidence because it shows an inner strength and resilience.

Characteristics of Confidence

  • Positive Self-Esteem: A healthy sense of self-worth and respect.
  • Assertiveness: The ability to express your thoughts, feelings, and needs clearly and respectfully.
  • Resilience: The ability to bounce back from setbacks and remain optimistic.
  • Composure: Staying calm and collected under pressure or in challenging situations.
  • Independence: Trusting your judgment and making decisions without excessive reliance on others.

How Gratitude Becomes Confidence

It might seem crazy to say that gratitude equals confidence, but there are several reasons this works. And it all comes back to the positive outlook you gain when you start practicing being thankful.

1. Positive Self-Perception

Gratitude helps you focus on the positive aspects of your life and your achievements. When you regularly acknowledge what you are thankful for, you also recognize your contributions to those positive outcomes. This acknowledgment builds a positive self-image, reinforcing your belief in your abilities and strengths.

2. Fewer Negative Emotions

Practicing gratitude can reduce negative emotions such as envy, resentment, and regret. By shifting your focus from what you lack to what you have, you cultivate a more optimistic outlook. This reduction in negative emotions allows you to approach challenges with a clearer, more confident mindset.

3. Enhanced Resilience

Gratitude increases resilience by helping you appreciate the support systems and resources you have, which in turn can make you more confident in your ability to handle adversity. Knowing that you have overcome challenges in the past and have things to be grateful for provides a strong foundation for facing future difficulties with confidence.

4. Improved Self-Worth

When you practice gratitude, you often reflect on your achievements and the positive feedback you receive from others. This reflection helps improve your self-worth and self-esteem. Feeling valued and recognizing your contributions boosts your confidence in your abilities and decisions.

5. Positive Reinforcement

Gratitude creates a cycle of positive reinforcement. The more you practice gratitude, the more you notice and appreciate the good in your life. This continuous reinforcement of positive experiences and achievements strengthens your confidence over time.

6. Increased Motivation

Gratitude can increase your motivation by reminding you of your progress and the positive outcomes of your efforts. When you feel motivated and see the results of your hard work, your confidence in your ability to achieve your goals grows.

7. Strengthened Relationships

Gratitude enhances your relationships by fostering a sense of appreciation and connectedness. Strong, supportive relationships contribute to your sense of security and confidence. When you feel supported and valued by others—and when you value others—your confidence in your social and professional interactions increases.

8. A Focus on Strengths

Gratitude encourages you to focus on your strengths and successes rather than dwelling on failures and weaknesses. This shift in focus helps you build a more confident outlook, as you are constantly reminded of what you are capable of achieving.

9. Encouragement of Positive Actions

Gratitude often leads to positive actions such as helping others, expressing appreciation, and setting and achieving personal goals. These actions not only benefit others but also reinforce your self-efficacy and confidence in your ability to make a positive impact.

10. Promotion of a Growth Mindset

Gratitude supports a growth mindset by helping you see challenges and setbacks as opportunities for growth and learning. When you appreciate the lessons learned from difficult experiences rather than dwelling on the pain, you become more confident in your ability to adapt and improve.

Practical Steps to Turn Gratitude into Confidence

Gratitude Journaling

Keep a journal where you write down things you are grateful for daily, focusing on your achievements and strengths. Challenge yourself to write more every day, or to think outside of the box and stretch your gratitude.

Reflect on Successes

When you find yourself kicking yourself for a mistake or failure, redirect your thoughts to your successes. Regularly review your past accomplishments and how your efforts contributed to them.

Express Gratitude to Others

Acknowledge and thank people who have supported you. Turn your underconfident energy into a desire to help others. As they always say, if you can’t love yourself, help someone else first. Building strong relationships through gratitude increases your support network and confidence.

Gratitude Meditations

Practice mindfulness or meditation focused on gratitude to help center your thoughts on positive aspects of your life. Turning gratitude into a routine, especially a quiet and personal one, will make it easier to practice throughout the day.


The words we say, both out loud and inside our heads, have a huge impact. Create affirmations that combine gratitude and confidence, such as “I am grateful for my skills and the success they bring me.” This will help turn your thoughts in a more thankful and confident direction, even when you’re not intentionally doing it.

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Shaelyn Topolovec earned a BA in editing and publishing from BYU, worked on several online publications, and joined the Familius family. Shae is currently an editor and copywriter who lives in California’s Central Valley.

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