Snow days are particularly fun because school is out, and parents who take a break from work can make young children feel like life has been paused. Where there was routine and expectations there can be play, excitement and time to sit around and talk.
We all want positive change in our lives, but even positive change is stressful. Families spend more time together cooking, playing and hanging out on snow days; but that means more mess, being behind in what you could have accomplished that day, and perhaps more stress overall. To avoid this, parents may try to pretend like there is nothing special about a snow day and try to continue their routine.
One couple I saw in counseling told me they were having marital problems and no longer loved each other. “When was the last time you went on vacation together?” I asked. They looked at each other quizzically, and sheepishly said they hadn’t vacationed since their honeymoon almost a decade earlier. While I don’t know if vacations can save all marriage, it did for this family. They took a much deserved trip across the country to somewhere they had always wanted to go. They hit “pause” on life at home and took time to enjoy one another. They found out that they actually did still like each other.