But where does that leave you if you don’t have anything to give in the first place? This Valentine’s Day, I invite you to give to yourself first.
As busy parents, we are on Pinterest trying to create the perfect gift or Valentine for our children or are otherwise riddled with guilt that we “bought” them from a store. If someone followed you all day long and wrote down everything you did today for your family and friends, what would be on your list? I bet it would be pretty amazing and pretty long.
I want you to start with writing your own Valentine first this year. Take ten minutes and write yourself a thank you note. Thank yourself for the lunches packed, for the clean clothes on your children, for making sure their bodies are cared for both inside and out.
You may find it challenging in the beginning. You may find that the first few minutes are uncomfortable and awkward. That’s ok. Keep going. Start off with the most basic compliment. Once you get going, let it flow. You deserve to be thanked because you are awesome. Put that incessant broken record in your mind of the LEGO movie’s song, “Everything is awesome” to work. It’s not just that everything is awesome but YOU are awesome. You are raising other human beings and teaching them how to give of themselves authentically to this world. That makes you, as a parent, a pretty amazing being.